A**hole Award: Boycott American Women

I've decided to create the first Feminism: Not a Naughty Word Award: The A**hole Award. Bitch magazine has their "Douchebag Decree" on their blogs, and I've decided to have my own. I don't know how often I will give out this award (I certainly could have last week when Phil Bryant referred to Initiative 26 opponents as Nazis), but I have to give it out today.

Last night, I got an email that a new person had commented on my blog. His comment provided a link to his blog, as well as a link to his book (do pay attention to the only 2 comments beneath the book). Now, the comment no longer appears on the blog, so maybe he decided to delete it after posting, I'm not sure. But you should really check out these links, because it's amazing to me that this exists. His blog, and his book, are called Boycott American Women. Here are a few gems:


Have you American women ever heard of the word "misandry"? It is the exact opposite of misoginy. It means hatred of men. And feminism and misandry are the same thing...So, get used to living alone with your 10 cats, or else become a lesbian. Those are your two options, American women! (Dec. 31, 2010)



American women have confused being strong and independent with what they want (selfishness), what they want to hear (arrogance). Ever disagree with an American woman, they can't take it and they tell you it's negative or being critical or opinionated, even if you show them proof they are wrong. (Dec. 27, 2010)


There are some good American women, but as a group, they pose a higher risk of future divorce compared to more traditional foreign women. This is one of the reasons that a growing number of well-off American men are marrying foreign brides...One of the problems here is that many young American women have become just like Brittany Spears - materialistic and emotionally unstable. Thus, they are not marriage-material and thus, easily discarded. (Nov. 17, 2011)


The sickness of feminism has made American women ugly. Ugliness is the mark of feminism, the scar left on women unlucky enough to be its victim. How can a women ever be beautiful after this infection? By deciding to be a women again and sever [serve, I'm pretty sure, is the intended word] her man as a woman should. Some women have been tricked into seeing themselves as beautiful because of feminism, but this is a lie. (Nov. 15, 2011)




Now, I could comment on the grammatical and spelling problems that abound on this blog (and probably in the book), but really, wouldn't that just be petty of me? Well, who cares, because this blog is completely petty. It's full of the rantings of men (it looks like any angry anti-feminist can post here) who don't want to lose their privileges. It's written by men who truly believe that women should "serve" their men (or "sever", as the author typed it). It's written by men who think that women asking for what they want are being selfish, but men asking for what they want (such as, I don't know, submissive women) are entitled and following the natural order.


This blog discusses the fact that women ruin the lives of men, and one way that they do that is with "False rape accusations (it has been proven that up to 80 percent of rape accusations are FALSE)." Now, I have heard different figures for the percentage of false rape accusations, so I tried to google it quickly. Wikipedia (not at all the best source, I know, but the fastest one I could find that wasn't just another blog ranting about false rape accusations) says, "Detailed investigations using differing samples and methodologies have found widely differing results ranging from as high as 41% to as low as 1.5%. As a scientific matter, the frequency of false rape complaints to police or other legal authorities remains unknown." So even within a huge range of possibility, the number is NOWHERE close to 80%. So where did this guy get his statistics? Who knows! He probably made it up.


These men want 1950s housewives. They want women to cook, clean, lie down for sex when told, and to smile while doing it all. In other words, these men don't want their wives to think or speak, or they certainly don't want their wives to challenge them to think. And of course, a huge problem here is that the only role in which these men discuss women is that of wife/girlfriend. These men don't respect women as individuals, I doubt they would call any women "friends" or "confidants." They're looking for baby-making, house-cleaning vessels.


I almost didn't write about this blog because it is SO ridiculous and the authors are clearly so ignorant, but I was so shocked that something like this could exist today that I had to share it. 

The Art of Being Feminine

I've stumbled across a blog called The Art of Being Feminine. In case you can't tell by the title, it's really kind of disgusting. It's very pink (yes, I'm aware that my blog is pink too and I'm being completely hypocritical, but this pink is disturbing because of everything that comes with it; plus it's lighter, like baby pink, while I think of my blog color as coral) and covered with old famous paintings of half-naked, creamy-skinned women. The home page provides a link to the author's new blog (apparently she has several) which is a how-to for being feminine. The description of the blog says "How to Have a Great Love Affair With a Man, and Captivate and Mesmerize him for LIFE!" Really? As we are so often told, the goal for being a real woman is to learn how to get and keep a man. There's also a goal of becoming "an Advanced Femme- a woman who's superior to all other women;" you know, because all other women are the enemy. There is advice for "Arousing a Man's Worship" as well. Here, you can learn how to re-imagine yourself, "evoking a man's adoration." Translation: 1) You should want a man to worship you instead of love you in a partnership and 2) You are not yet, as you are, worthy of adoration, so you should learn how to change yourself to make it possible. Even though the author occasionally points out that a woman needs to love herself and not worry about her appearance, that message is lost among all the posts about learning to catch a man, how to perform a proper seductive gaze, and so on. She talks about a woman loving herself, but always in the context of "you can't find love until you love yourself." So loving yourself is just a means to get to, what else, a relationship with a man.

The most disturbing post I've found is How Feminine Women are Happiest. First of all, she seems to be defining a feminine woman as a "traditional wife, reigning as a queen in her family." This woman is compared to "her feminist and independent sisters" (note that 'independent' here seems to be derogatory) who may be successful in careers but are surely lacking complete fulfillment. How are there people who still think like this out there? I wonder what this author would think of men who are stay-at-home dads. She would probably say they are going against their nature, since, according to this post, men are naturally "suited for hard work and adventure" (as well as "conquest and war," can't leave that out!). Actually, I think that staying home with children could definitely qualify as hard work and adventure; I'm not sure if this author would agree with me.

The author writes that "Feminism makes the woman a rival, rather than the companion and supporter of a man."The flaw in this argument: the assumption that men, and masculine characteristics, are naturally superior. If a woman is considered inferior, then having independence and ambition means she is stepping outside of her station, of her place in the natural order; this makes her threatening to the man and his position. The author tries to reconcile herself with the times, saying that a woman can still have a Master's degree, and sure, she can have a job if her family economically needs it (which most do these days but that's beside the point), but ultimately, she concludes that the woman with a job is selfishly putting her own needs ahead of her husband's and family's. Seriously?

You'll have to look more closely at the blog to understand how ridiculous it is. I just find it amazing that there are people who still believe that women and men are genetically, not just different, but opposite. And where would she put homosexual, bisexual and transgender people? Most likely, she would not even consider them as valid humans (which is a huge problem of this binary way of looking at gender). I'm just disgusted that there is someone like this selling advice to women who will, and do, truly believe that the way to a happy life is to constantly consider themselves second-class citizens.